But boundaries are about limits and rules we set for each other. Just saying 'don't talk to me about this' isn't setting a boundary. It's shutting down communication completely.
"When I feel comfortable discussing my cabin, I will talk to you about it," is still telling me that I shouldn't talk to you about it, but you're setting the rule, not shutting things down completely. If I want to talk about it, I have to do the work to see that you're comfortable enough to talk about it. I can respect the rule. Just like I was respecting what we agreed to before. You can change it and I'll respect that, but you're acting like I didn't. Which is just being shitty.
I'm not just going to not work with you, though. Because if you don't graduate, you end up in the Dark World, dead permanently, and there's no telling if you'll ever get out and I don't want that to happen to you. I don't think you want that to happen to you either. So that would be a stupid fucking decision and if you're just making it to be a contrary asshole, I'm not going to accept that boundary because it's self-destructive.
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But boundaries are about limits and rules we set for each other. Just saying 'don't talk to me about this' isn't setting a boundary. It's shutting down communication completely.
"When I feel comfortable discussing my cabin, I will talk to you about it," is still telling me that I shouldn't talk to you about it, but you're setting the rule, not shutting things down completely. If I want to talk about it, I have to do the work to see that you're comfortable enough to talk about it. I can respect the rule. Just like I was respecting what we agreed to before. You can change it and I'll respect that, but you're acting like I didn't. Which is just being shitty.
I'm not just going to not work with you, though. Because if you don't graduate, you end up in the Dark World, dead permanently, and there's no telling if you'll ever get out and I don't want that to happen to you. I don't think you want that to happen to you either. So that would be a stupid fucking decision and if you're just making it to be a contrary asshole, I'm not going to accept that boundary because it's self-destructive.